Comments on: (False) Lessons in Life.

By: Andy

Andy — Sat, 27 Dec 2008 00:15:20 +0000

Yes, we aren’t children anymore – but it still hurts, I imagine. I remember when the comment was made, whilst I was there, and I felt for you all the same.

By: Pietro

Pietro — Sat, 27 Dec 2008 00:06:31 +0000

Yes, but now we are no more children…And, remembering Forrest Gump “stupid is who as stupid acts”.
The post was not heavy, in my opinion it was a very good one. Full of truth. Now it’s time to sleep. I was watchin “Capricorn One”, but there are a lot of interruptions!

By: Andy

Andy — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 17:07:08 +0000

Sorry, Guys, for the slightly heavy post but it was to try and explain the last paragraph.

Gail, I’m glad that you had a good chat with Dolan.

Pietro, yes, I imagine it was hard for you at school. Hell, people even make the comments now, I seem to remember, even if it is in jest!

By: Pietro

Pietro — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 16:59:01 +0000

I hope that my comment does not bother you. Reading the story of your childhood, I reminded mine. They were extremely similar. At middle school I was the youngster and weaker (I started school one year before), and there were guys that called me “nigger”, “Kunta Kinte” etc, because my skin is darker than theirs.
For the first 2 years I was forced to accept, and the continued day by day also because I didn’t accepted. There were lot of fights, and many times I lost. I remember that I didn’t want to tell my parents what was happening, but one day I was forced. They went to school, but the following days were even worst…
At the end, they were called again, this time because I “won” in one fight. At that time I was proud, now I only think that the victory, if we can call it so (I had broken lips and pain everywhere…my opponent some more), gave me breath. I never became a bully, but my reactions to “attacks” changed. The day I stopped to interest about the ways they called me, they stopped too…
Being part of the crowd because it is convenient? Not always is the good choice.
I always say that if one is a real friend, even if you don’t phone him for one year, the day you do he’s happy. He can tell you “where were you in the last year”, but he knows also that the same sentence is valid for him. My friends knows that now I have different interests, and they respect my decisions. If they don’t, this means they’re not real friends.
You’re right, words have a more lasting effect than physical actions, but we have one advantage: we can understand if they come frome someone that connected his brain or not…assuming they have one, of course!

By: Gail

Gail — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 16:31:08 +0000

Hi Andy-
I learned a lot about you from this writing. I appreciate your candor very much. Your lessons learned are all valuable in their own right. And as much as you don’t want any sympathy, I am sorry you were bullied. It is quite awful. And you are so right about the “scars of words”.

Well, it is the day after Christmas – Dolan and I chatted over coffee for hours this morning. It was wonderful.

Love from across the pond
Gail
peace…..