Comments on: Death by a thousand cuts http://thesmediolanumlif.com/?p=298 Thes - Old English for "this", neuter of thes, of West Germanic origin: Mediolanum - old name for Milan: Lif - Old English for "life", of Germanic origin; related to Dutch lijf, German Leib 'body' Fri, 16 Nov 2018 07:21:49 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.1.41 By: Andy http://thesmediolanumlif.com/?p=298#comment-381 Sat, 31 Jan 2009 09:10:46 +0000 http://www.vandainmilan.com/?p=298#comment-381 Hi Gail,
The problem is that, whilst healing, usually, the person picks at the scab. You are lucky that you have Skipp to help you NOT to pick at the scabs.
We do pay close attention and this is always a good thing, I think :-)
Love and healing to you too.
Andy

]]> By: Gail http://thesmediolanumlif.com/?p=298#comment-380 Sat, 31 Jan 2009 00:32:19 +0000 http://www.vandainmilan.com/?p=298#comment-380 Hi again-

you are so very welcome.

and yes, you are SO right, first the bleeding, then the scab while it heals. I guess, the “trick” (can’t think of a better word), is to be sure no one pulls off the scab and then to avoid re-injury. Easier said than done, huh>
And, interestingly and surprising is the fact that when I wrote of my cuts and bleeds I wasn’t even thinking of my trauma history- perhaps because those events were not cuts but more like deep stab wounds – but still, I am quite pleased that my references were about me and Skipp, and not the past. Some times I am amazed at just how far I have come on this healing journey of mine. Your response to me provided that clarity and I want to “thank you”.

And your expressed insights about my daughter are quite accurate.
I am also amazed at how much we know and thus can infer about one another. We each pay close attention. :-)

Love and healing
Gail
peace…..

]]> By: Andy http://thesmediolanumlif.com/?p=298#comment-379 Fri, 30 Jan 2009 23:11:26 +0000 http://www.vandainmilan.com/?p=298#comment-379 Hi Gail,
Yes, and thank you for the kind words but, as I know, you have endured far worse than I.
I understand about your daughter, from what you have written and, yes, I agree, for some people bleeding is a way of life – a little like abusive relationships, etc.
The cuts, though maybe many, are new and must bleed yet before they can be healed – but soon, I think, the cuts will stop – at least, I hope so.
However, your very kind words are a comfort in themselves.
Love from this side.

]]> By: Gail http://thesmediolanumlif.com/?p=298#comment-378 Fri, 30 Jan 2009 17:07:52 +0000 http://www.vandainmilan.com/?p=298#comment-378 Hi Andy-
I am truly quite sorry you are bleeding. I understood your every word, emotion, feeling, sense of pain and hurt and dare I say, betrayal. And yet, I know too the gift of no more cuts, no more slow bleeds that drain one of life and love and hope. Now, as time has allowed, I am still cut, but not here, not with him – we, instead, help heal the wounds/cuts from others around us, a child, a sibling, a friend and so forth.
I was just telling my daughter that my hope for her and her son is that they are safe and your words explain perfectly what I meant. She has a thousand cuts, and she is in another relationship that will bleed her slowly as well – sadly, she is used to it, bleeding is a way of life – as my gently placing on bandaids is my role in her life – and Andy, I guess, as you endure the cuts I hope that someone is always close by to gently place a bandaid on you. If I were closer, I would, as many as you need. I am really quite good at it.

Love from across the pond,
Gail
peace….

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