Comments on: Irrational Feelings?

By: Andy

Andy — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 18:31:42 +0000

I agree, Pietro. If only I could do something to help – no – get him home! Everything is crossed that it will go alright next Wednesday and that he will be on his way back soon after that.

By: Pietro

Pietro — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 18:20:39 +0000

I hope too he’ll be back soon. He’s one of the few that has “no bad mood”, always available to help and explain, teaching somethimes if needed. I went to a prison, once. There was a company that settled a theatre company of inmates. As you wrote in another place, being in relationship sometimes asks you to do something you normally would avoid. I still remember my fellings when I entered in. I cannot survive in places that are too strict, I need room to walk, to move, to change…
For me prison is a dark place, limited possibility to see the sky. I feel like after a punch in my stomach, like you. And I would like to have the possibility to do something for him.

By: Andy

Andy — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 15:31:44 +0000

For some people, the loss of control makes them angry. The fight or flee gene works when you feel cornered. I’m sure you must have seen both of these at work.

By: Gail

Gail — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 13:22:45 +0000

Andy-

yes, yes,, es. Control. I don’t give control up well at all. Prisons and hospitals are clearly places one must surrender or die resisting. Ya know?

Even at my work -clients have to give up control and surrender to the structure of the program. I am SO aware of this dynamic and understand their resistance more than most.

love Gail
peace….

By: Andy

Andy — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 21:04:23 +0000

Well, at least with hypochondria there is some sort of rationale behind your dislike of hospitals!

By: Bianca

Bianca — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 18:11:19 +0000

I’m hypochondriac and I can’t deal with hospitals. I am much more scared of hospitals than prisons.

By: Andy

Andy — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 17:11:02 +0000

I worked out it’s all the places where I feel I may not be in control. I don’t mean in control of others, just in control of myself or where I don’t have enough knowledge of something (like hospitals).

By: Gail

Gail — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 15:54:17 +0000

Oh my,

I feel the fear you are talking about. Prison? Awful. I get that same ‘sick to my stomach’ feeling too. A woman I work with? Her 32 yer old son is in prison, and I cannot even imagine her fears!!!
My work, which serves a prison population, as in, those just released or perhaps heading back after treatment has allowed me to really intensify my fears. At the same time, I have to be comforting to the client which is a delicate balance when every fiber of my being wants to tell them to “RUN”!!!!

Hospitals are scary places too.

Love Gail
peace…….