everything you wrote rings true or possible anyway like you said, who knows what is really motivating her choices. “thank you Andy” I so appreciate our honest dialogue.
Loving you
Gail
peace…..

Yes, I realise you were stunned by it. And for her to admit it, of course, is the other thing. Most people would just say ‘No, it’s because I am busy’ or something and then hope you would stop ‘pestering’ them, if you see what I mean.

I wondered about the reason too and thought it could, possibly, be the MS. Maybe it’s something she can’t face? The thought of the future is too hard for her, maybe? Or maybe she thinks that you will become a burden to her later? The problem is that you can’t see into her mind and, so, can’t change her perceptions (if it is the reason, of course).

You talk about her adjusting to the new facets of her life. Maybe that’s the reason? Maybe, as part of this adjustment, she thinks she must get rid of the ‘old’ to permit the ‘new’ to come in? People think like that. Or, maybe, it involves influence from ‘new’ people in her life?

Only she can tell you the real reason. Maybe she will, in the future? Who knows?

I’m glad that I didn’t upset you with my musings and opinion though. I realise it’s a very sad thing for you. She probably doesn’t realise how much she has hurt you. That is also very sad.

I am letting go, each day. I miss her, and our friendship very much but it’s over.
Again, thank you SO much Andy – I like your mind and heart and how you process.
Love to you
Gail
peace…….

Sorry for not replying earlier but I didn’t look at my computer after work, last night. I had promised A I would go round and after the previous night’s lack of sleep I was so tired I went to bed.

Anyhow, I’m here now.

Yes, I knew you’d be here some time. I couldn’t reply directly because, whilst I understand and would normally reply, it coincided with the article (I read the article first and was thinking about this post before I happened on your post) and I couldn’t say what I wanted to say on your blog. I just couldn’t. It doesn’t ‘fit’ with your blog at all.

It is quite possible that it is all to do with your friend and nothing to do with you. It happens. But, normally, these things flash red well before the actual break. And my point was that, maybe, deep down, you know ‘something’ about the ‘why’. Maybe?

But I think you are taking the correct action and I hope that, one day, you find out the actual ‘why’.

It wasn’t meant to be a ‘talking to’ in any way! So sorry it came across like that. :'(

And, of course, you are right. These things are more layered and detailed than can be written about in such a short space.

But I wanted you to know that I HAD read your post and HAD thought about it and I just wanted to share my feelings. I hope I haven’t upset you, for that was not my intention. Anyway, it’s only my thoughts at this moment.