Yes, it is almost always the mind…and in my case I know it is. A was saying yesterday that it seemed I was putting emphasis on the wrong thing – i.e. how they looked – but it’s only that it makes such a huge difference right now (and always has been important). What am I to do? I mean there are some beautiful people who are really nice – but it doesn’t mean that they are beautiful in a way that means that I can go to bed with them. I’ve never been like that and, at my age, it might be more difficult to change. I blame my parents…..but then, I would, wouldn’t I?