Comments on: The story that cannot be shared http://thesmediolanumlif.com/?p=602 Thes - Old English for "this", neuter of thes, of West Germanic origin: Mediolanum - old name for Milan: Lif - Old English for "life", of Germanic origin; related to Dutch lijf, German Leib 'body' Fri, 16 Nov 2018 07:21:49 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.1.41 By: Andy http://thesmediolanumlif.com/?p=602#comment-1218 Tue, 08 Dec 2009 16:31:24 +0000 http://www.vandainmilan.com/?p=602#comment-1218 Hi MoR,
It’s not really that I am worried about it. It was just something I noticed and thought I would share.
Of course, with F being Italian, I am becoming more Italianised. He already had a long-term relationship with an English guy so is more Anglicised :-D
And, yes, the plans for next year include one or two trips to the UK. To show him the places I lived, etc.
The cultural diversity is fun, mainly but I know some things will irritate me – but then there will be things about me that irritate him. Now it is new and fresh and wonderful. I think we are old enough and wise enough to be able to take it through – at least it’s something we both want, very much.

]]> By: Man of Roma http://thesmediolanumlif.com/?p=602#comment-1217 Tue, 08 Dec 2009 14:45:25 +0000 http://www.vandainmilan.com/?p=602#comment-1217 You are a very sensitive person, Andy.

Pls don’t worry too much. If you continue to stay together the missing history, as you call it, might get less and less, although of course it will never disappear.

The past is the past, but present and future can progressively be shared by both more and more.

Maybe you should italianize yourself more, like he should anglicize himself more, if one can say that.

Dunno, bring him to the UK, show him the places you love and all. He could do the same with you. I know couples from different countries who made it wonderfully.

Only it takes more intelligence and much more patience, to beat what in my view could be enemy no 1: irritation. Irritation for cultural diversity, which tends to be fun only at first.

]]> By: Andy http://thesmediolanumlif.com/?p=602#comment-1216 Mon, 07 Dec 2009 10:50:36 +0000 http://www.vandainmilan.com/?p=602#comment-1216 Hi Pietro. It is a difficult thing but i wasn’t trying to say it was a problem (at my age that would be stupid as i have two, very long relationshios and many memories behind me) but that it was something i became aware of because, in this case, i do not know the singer nor the language and so i cannot share in this with him. You are right of course and in the words of the famous film, tomorrow is another day. And with that comes new (and shared) experiences and memories

]]> By: Pietro http://thesmediolanumlif.com/?p=602#comment-1215 Sun, 06 Dec 2009 18:43:23 +0000 http://www.vandainmilan.com/?p=602#comment-1215 One good thing of the past is that…is past. And I think it is true. I want to tell you something happened today. After a nice afternoon (very nice at at certain moment, even if it was probably the last time) , we passed in front of the former house (now restructured into a big building) of a girl I knew since I was 5, and that she knows in a transversal way. This girl had a car accident about 17 years ago. I remembered it, and while we were speaking about this girl, at a certain point I heard: ” Did you like her?”. “Yes, for a couple of weeks (when I was 17), then I knew she preferred another friend of our group, and it ended. At elementary (!!!) scholl everybody liked her, but I not”. ” I’m angry because of this girl”. “Why? it was 17 years ago!!!”. 20 minutes later, in front of her home, she said “Bye. we cannot continue as we are doing (we discussed of this in the afternoon). Go to the brown-haired girls”. We’ll speak at the phone later, I know, and we’ll discuss again of this stuff. The point is that for me that is a part of my past closed, I do not think to that, however is seems that what happened in the past may be important. For me it is important what I do now with someone. Or I would not do. Do not worry because you cannot get all the feelings (Btw, I do not like at all that singer!!!), you’ll have time to share the new ones that will arrive. And that’s the most important thing. Yesterday was yesterday, another Andrew and F (you both will keep something of them), but now there are THESE Andrew and F.

]]> By: Andy http://thesmediolanumlif.com/?p=602#comment-1214 Sat, 05 Dec 2009 16:04:54 +0000 http://www.vandainmilan.com/?p=602#comment-1214 You’re probably right, Gail. Although I ached for it, it wasn’t a sad nor a happy thing, just a ‘thing’ that was there (or, rather, wasn’t there).
And, yes, it was intimate, even if I didn’t ‘get it’, if you see what I mean :-).

]]> By: Gail Eichinger http://thesmediolanumlif.com/?p=602#comment-1213 Sat, 05 Dec 2009 15:52:44 +0000 http://www.vandainmilan.com/?p=602#comment-1213 Hi Andy-

it is in hte ‘missing part’ just outside ourselves that we long for in another that keeps love so exciting. And dare I say, it seems you shared this experience intimately, regardless. :-) I felt it and I wasn’t even there!!

Love to you
Gail’
peace…..

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