Comments on: In case of what? I’ve no idea!

By: Andy

Andy — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 18:07:04 +0000

Yes, I understand. Apart from Farmville, I don’t use it so much. Posting the odd thing which says nothing about me, really. The only place where I really let out some of my feelings and thoughts is here – but these are generally thoughts and feelings that I don’t tell anyone – except, maybe, Best Mate.

I think it’s almost as scary to delete your profile as it is to maintain it. But Lola found it liberating in some way, so maybe you should? I, almost certainly, won’t. I keep thinking it will be really useful one day……….or, maybe not :-).

My interest in my family is purely nosy. My interest in my real friends, some of whom are friends on Facebook, is genuine and that makes it different. And I have always been so crap at keeping in touch so it’s good for me.

By: Pietro

Pietro — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 17:30:36 +0000

I’m on facebook, and I do not play Farmville, I do not write anything about me or what I’m thinking (there’s the blog, that’s not updated so often…), and I do not upload photos. I met several schoolmate who I lost in the years, and sometimes I read their page to know if they’re good or not.that’s all. but, as Lola, I am thinking to cancel the profile.

By: Andy

Andy — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 10:01:03 +0000

….oooh, exciting

By: Lola

Lola — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 09:47:33 +0000

….mmm thinking about a new blog
I’ll let you know.

ps.yes, video surveillance is totally different.

By: Andy

Andy — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 07:29:49 +0000

Oh, yes, and nice to see you back, Lola! Any chance of another blog…..please? Pretty please?

By: Andy

Andy — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 07:25:22 +0000

Well, to be honest, for everyone else (and certainly my ‘Friends’) I don’t feel the urge to ‘spy’ nor do I feel like I’m doing that. It is juts this one case and it is special circumstances, since it is my blood family.
I don’t understand the UK approach – but the thing you mention here is, to my mind, a completely different thing. Facebook can be as private as you want. There is no need to advertise anything about yourself, if you choose not to although, maybe, if I had an unusual name, I would think differently. As it is, if you Google my name, you won’t find me as there are so many more famous people with my name, in any of its forms!
No, you’re right. I rarely write about my Family. This blog is, in the main, about the present and not the past. I’m afraid none of my family are part of my present, excpet in ways like this.

By: Lola

Lola — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 21:58:40 +0000

I’m not in facebook anymore and I feel defitely better!
I don’t have the urge to “spy” on my friends and relatives and I don’t like them to look at my facebook page.
I don’t understand the approach “nothing to hide nothing to fear” (very popular in the UK to promote the use of CCTV cameras) as I find it very reductive.

Anyway Andy, this post struck me. I’ve reading this blog for a while and you’ve (almost) never written about your family.

By: Andy

Andy — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 17:49:30 +0000

Yes, a friend of mine recently contacted the ex-wife of a guy that had hurt her very much. The wife responded and they had several email conversations. I’m not sure what it did for either of them in the end but my friend seemed to feel some sort of bonding between them which, reading the emails, I did not. However, I think yours is the best policy.

What keeps us all apart? Well, that’s a long story to be told another time but I do know what it is and, in some way, it is my choice too as well as theirs. Or, perhaps (but unlikely), I am not giving them the chance? We shall, probably, never know. As far as I know, they don’t even know that I don’t live in the UK and, so, it would be quite hard to find me.

Facebook can be, sort of, dangerous, really.

By: Gail Eichinger

Gail Eichinger — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 16:10:51 +0000

Hi Andy-
Facebook can stir up a lot. I wonder about your two brothers and why it has been 20 years, and I wonder who “she” is. An old friend, relative, I wonder.
I was recently contacted by Dolan’s father’s recent “X”. She is SO hurt and wanted to share with me all the details of what ‘he’ did to her and their son. I wrote back and told her she could not process with me, that it was important to tell but not me. I wished her and her son well. When she wrote back, in very broken English and clearly of Hispanic heritage the saddest sentence in her message was this : “I don’t want to say goodbye to you”.
We have never even met and sadly, she was hoping that I could join her in her pain and hurt. I cannot. So I do wonder who “she” is in your Facebook world and I wonder about your brothers and what keeps you all apart. I sense your wonder as well.
Love and hope for us all
Gail
‘peace……