Comments on: Not the Bad Guy here.

By: Andy

Andy — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 08:40:22 +0000

Thanks Gail and Lola. Yes, I know I’m not the bad guy and I know I’m not responsible for him but I don’t do the gossip thing that well and, therefore, where others would immediately be on the phone or writing an email to tell the world, I just keep my mouth shut ….. unless the person says they want it to be told!

And, to be honest Lola, I don’t really like most of his colleagues and so, you’re right, I don’t really care what they say. However, it meant that visiting him in hospital, which is difficult enough for me anyway, became just impossible. They were there all the time and, even if they would leave me alone with him for a while, it was just horrible.

I haven’t told him this and nor will I. They’re his friends – but he was never that good at choosing his friends and mistakes one thing for something else.

And I was a bit angry when I wrote this, to be honest.

Now I shall go to my quiet, calm place

By: Lola

Lola — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 08:22:50 +0000

Andy, his colleagues are …. I’ don’t know how to put it… stupid.
But you seem strong enough not to care about it.
And yes, it’s not your responsibility anymore.

By: Gail Eichinger

Gail Eichinger — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 20:45:53 +0000

Oh my Andy – it is “V” of which you write. He had a stroke. I am SO so sorry. And sorry for all the confusion of telling, and who should know when and from whom – those nuances are so messy and awkward. So “no”, you are NOT the bad guy, the confused guy but not the bad guy. And not confused because of you, confused because after a break-up it is always confusing. Alwyas.

I am sorry for the whole mess.

Loving you
Gail
peace……