Comments on: It’s not a weakness, it’s just a feeling. http://thesmediolanumlif.com/?p=779 Thes - Old English for "this", neuter of thes, of West Germanic origin: Mediolanum - old name for Milan: Lif - Old English for "life", of Germanic origin; related to Dutch lijf, German Leib 'body' Fri, 16 Nov 2018 07:21:49 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.1.41 By: Andy http://thesmediolanumlif.com/?p=779#comment-1594 Sun, 30 May 2010 07:11:30 +0000 http://www.vandainmilan.com/?p=779#comment-1594 Hi Gail,

I am so pleased to see you here. I realise that this time is difficult in so many ways and my love goes to you and all your family.

All that you said is true. We do ebb and flow and the rhythm of that is important and if it is matched makes for an easy relationship. In spite of what he said, I feel it is like that with us.

I hope to see you back soon, Gail, and hope everything works out well for you and your Mum.
xx

]]> By: Gail Eichinger http://thesmediolanumlif.com/?p=779#comment-1593 Sun, 30 May 2010 03:18:43 +0000 http://www.vandainmilan.com/?p=779#comment-1593 Hi Andy-

I was captured by the beginning – because I do believe that it is a balance of weaker and stronger, strengths and weaknesses, qualities and defects, power and pause, courage and fears, we are all a mix of so much – and in a healthy relationship we ebb and flow, bend like the trees in the wind to allow for the sway – find each others rhythm and be ready to change dances at a moments notice. :-)

I am visiting a few blogs – my journey with my Mo’s illness is all consuming. sigh….It was very nice to visit you tonight.

Love you
Gail
peace and hope

]]> By: Andy http://thesmediolanumlif.com/?p=779#comment-1592 Sat, 29 May 2010 07:16:54 +0000 http://www.vandainmilan.com/?p=779#comment-1592 Hi Lola.

Hahahahaha – I don’t know how it works either! That’s all part of the fun, kind of.

I understand what you mean. In reality, I’m not really weaker and I think he knows that. I permit him to be ‘bossy’, as he calls it, with certain things and in certain situations. He is, after all, even more stubborn than I am :-) But, at my age and this time in my life, I only want to be real with him and I’m comfortable with that. We have a long way to go (I hope).

Thanks for your thoughts though. I will bear them in mind.

]]> By: Lola http://thesmediolanumlif.com/?p=779#comment-1591 Sat, 29 May 2010 05:41:05 +0000 http://www.vandainmilan.com/?p=779#comment-1591 Hi Andy,
I don’t know how your relationship works, I’m speaking at a mere theoretical level here (based only on this post).
I think you’re right: showing affection doesn’t mean you’re weaker than him. However, feeling stronger (not necessarly being stronger) could have drawbacks. I had the same with G. and at some point I felt our relationship was really unbalanced which made me reconsider many things. I don’t want to scare you or anything. It’s just a thought I wanted to share. Be sure he knows you are as strong as he thinks to be.

ps. I love BEP too :)

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