“I’m not going to go to Vienna”, he says. “I’m going to go down and do the house”
This is, actually, quite an important statement, I think.
I mean to say, he seems to really want to make it a nice place to be. I have the feeling it was left to fend for itself in the last few years. Now he wants to put it in some sort of order.
“Then, when I am away, travelling, you can go down with the bambini on Friday night or even Saturday morning.”
It seems he really does want me to do that. What he doesn’t seem to realise is that, without him, it isn’t really going to be the same at all.
But there is a change in the way that he’s looking at things.
Don’t get me wrong. We are ‘together’ but it’s an ‘individual togetherness’. It’s not like it was before for me (and probably for him) where you planned your future together; your life together. We don’t really do the planning bit at all. We continue to be separate. Just conveniently together. I don’t know whether I like it or not. But it’s OK.
So, he intends to go down at the end of May for a week. I suggested that, as it’s a ‘long weekend’ for us (for Italy, really), I could come down with the bambini. It seems not. Apparently, it will not be of help, even if I did suggest I could do the garden. No. He wants to get the house (well, flat, really) cleaned and painted. He will get R to help. He wants it tidied up a bit. Then we can go down for the weekend. Well, the ‘we’ is without him, it seems. For me, that’s not nearly as good but, as he seems to really want this, I suppose it is good.
But, no, we can’t go down whilst he is doing this tidy up. We will be in the way. I suggested the garden thing since that is one thing I really do miss from being in the UK. It seems not. Oh well. I won’t push.
And it has to be right for our holidays since the first week we will be there. It’s nice that he wants the place to be a little spruced up for me and the dogs.
Just thought you should know.
Other things:
1. CV not finished but I needed a break.
2. Since yesterday morning there has been a real change in Rufus, for the better. He seems quite a different dog. Maybe it’s the warmer weather and, so, less of a problem with arthritis? Still, whatever it is, it’s very nice to see.
Hi Andy-
So nice to hear that Rufus is more comfortable. phew. Now, what of this house that requires tidying? I am so unaware of it. Is it both of yours? Or just “F’s”? And so too I am confused as to why it is even a question or decision if you go or not. Such thoughts leave a bitter taste in me. I am just sayin’……..
Love to you and BIG pats to Rufus
Gail
peace……
Hi Gail,
Yes, it is rather good, isn’t it?
The house is the one that F owns with his brother. It’s actually the ground floor of a 2-storey house and is in F’s birthplace and where, last summer and September, we spent most weekends. The flat itself does need a bit of updating and F thinks it will be nice for me to be able to go there with the dogs – even if it is without him because he is working or away. And he’s right, in a way, it would be lovely. Just much, much better with him, of course.
Anyway, last year, he got his Mum and Dad to go in and do cleaning so that we could use it. No one has stayed there for about 6 years, it seems. He doesn’t really want to ask them to do that this year as it is a little unfair – and I agree. He also wants to give it a lick of paint and, generally, make it much nicer. This year, in August, we shall go and stay there for a week, then a week in Umbria and then, probably, most weekends back down at the flat.
So, it’s OK. There’s no bitter taste, really. I was just having a bit of a ‘not sure’ moment
Rufus will be very happy with big pats – thanks
Hi Andy,
I can see what you mean by “individual togetherness” . As far as I can tell, you are not a “planner” but perhaps when it comes to love things should be put in a different perspective. In my very humble opinion, it’s fine with you to a certain extent. I’m not too sure you like this “change” . Perhaps I am wrong though… this is just my take on that.
ps. un bacio a Rufus
Oh! I didn’t read your answer to Gail.
Indeed, i am wrong … if it’s just a not sure moment.
Thanks for the bacio for Rufus. He was very pleased
Yes, I’m talking of his house down on the Tuscan coast. And it was just a ‘not sure’ moment
Hi Andy-
I so appreciate you taking the time to share about the house/flat. I totally understand – and please know that in my heart I am always looking out for you – not that you need it it is just the way I feel, and react, like a protective “big sister” . I know you will have many lovely weeks and weekends there with “F” and even without him for it is a part of him, regardless.
Love to you
Gail
peace…
Yes, I do know what you mean ‘without him’. But, if I go down there on my own (or, rather, just me and the dogs) there are other pressures as well. His family, etc. Who are lovely but who I don’t really know at all. But that’ll be for another post, I think.
Thanks for looking out for me. I appreciate my big sister
A house in Tuscany…. it’s always been my dream
If we win at Super Enalotto, we’ll buy a casale in the countyside (not too far from the sea though!
This isn’t quite in the countryside but it’s OK. It’s in a quiet place and it’s so nice to be there with F anyway that it’s OK.
Good luck with the Super Enalotto! I didn’t even know you played it?