Why I was in the UK – NOT ignoring friends, exactly.

It isn’t that I meant to snub all my friends but this is inevitable when you go “back home”.

I mean, I was going back for Best Mate’s 40th birthday. She hasn’t been so well over the last few years and, although I intended to stay for the weekend, I didn’t know how she would be and whether I would a) be with her the whole time or b) if she was up for “nights out with friends”.

So, I couldn’t take the risk and chose not to tell anyone I was going back. If I had, I would have had people trying to make arrangements to see me – which, in other circumstances I would have loved, but, in this case, would have just been hassle, particularly, possibly, for her.

In the end, I spent the whole weekend with her (also her kids and her Mum and Dad). We met one mutual friend in passing in Hay-on-Wye and sat and had a drink with her and chatted for a bit, which was lovely but, it was Best Mate’s birthday weekend so, for me, anything she wanted was what we did.

And it was really lovely. She seems much better now and it was so good to spend some quality time with her.

As we discussed (and have discussed many, many times before), there would appear, on the surface, to be no good reason why we are best friends. Nobody ever really understood why we were and since we don’t really understand either, it’s difficult to explain. And yet, within about half a day of our first meeting all those years ago, we had a “connection” and, even if we don’t speak or see each other so often, the moment we are together again it’s like we’ve never been apart from each other.

It’s all so easy and we can just relax in each others company.

And I like that. A lot.

I’m hoping she is on the first steps to a full recovery and that, maybe, I can see a bit more of her in the future.

In any event, to me she has always been and will remain a star.

4 thoughts on “Why I was in the UK – NOT ignoring friends, exactly.

  1. I can see what you mean. “Having a connection” with someone is great and hard to explain. Thank God, it’s not a rational thing.
    Sometimes being human is quite wonderful, isn’t it?

    • Sometimes it’s more obvious – if you have many things in common. In this case, in theory, we have nothing in common and our worlds are so very different.

      But, yes, being a human being is wonderful :-)

  2. Yes, I know.
    I have the same feeling with some friends of mine. We don’t have much in common but I feel the “connection” you mentioned. It’s rare though.

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